Friendship in Digital Age

How many friends do you have on Facebook?
If I looked at my Facebook, I’ve 1,520 friends on Facebook.
As far as I know, Facebook limits our connection up to 5,000 friends.
In digital age, we have a tendency to have more…and more friends. 🙂
The Internet makes a possibility to find a long-lost friend or a new-found friend
There are interesting quotes from Jim Rohn and Oprah Winfrey:

You become like the 5 people you spend the most time with. Jim Rohn
Surround yourself with people who are going to lift you higher. Oprah Winfrey

I am blessed to have many great friends on Facebook.

Fida R. Abbott is one of my special friend whom I found online through her blog,
Then, we become friends on Facebook too.
The interesting facts about us are we are both from the same city Surabaya in Indonesia; we studied at the same university, but in different faculties. Surprisingly, we never met each other when we were at the university. 😕

Fida is an author, a blogger and a director of online Indonesia news, HOKI besides keeping her job too.
She wrote her book Enthusiam at and the book won a Pinnacle book achievement award.

Here is my review for her book at

I enjoyed how she narrated part of her life to pursue her dream as a published author with English as her second language. She made her simple life interesting and remembered every detail in her life. She could blend the story of the past, present and her dream for the future well in her novel. She told her stories in bold frankness, sprinkled with her cultural upbringing and native Bahasa Indonesia language, making her novel unique and one of a kind. She valued family, relatives and friends and they became part of this novel.

Enthusiasm is an interesting novel to read. This novel will be a source of inspiration and encouragement for women seeking to move forward in their life. It can be good resources for everybody who wants to be a writer. She shared her brilliant ideas and marketing efforts, used her blog as a marketing tool to connect with people as many as possible, learned from the great writers, and valued people’s feedbacks.

I am inspired by her quotes and her brilliant ideas she presented in her novel, which is a good resource for writers, especially her marketing concept of “spread the word” and “connect with more people” to let them know about her works.

This book is published in Indonesian language too. She supports a good cause for unreached children program, cancer and cystic Fibrosis Research with her books.

You can also find other Fida’s books at She published four books there.

I followed her step few years later. I contributed a chapter to anthology books “Living without Limitations – 30 Mentors to Rock Your World” and “Living without Limitations – 30 Stories to Heal Your World” The books were compiled by Anita Sechesky. I was glad for the opportunity to write the books together with coaches and mentors.

Fida has a passion for cooking too.  She named her food creation, Amerindo which means American Indonesian food. She published two Amerindo Kitchen series: Fabulous leftover Turkey and Tumpeng at

I’m a novice in cooking. I learn to cook Indonesian food, because I miss home food country.
Unexpectedly, my daughter used Tumpeng, Indonesian food to do her art project in  practical exam. It was a hard work for me to cook Tumpeng. The cone-shaped rice mimics a holy mountain in Java island. There is a philosophical meaning behind Tumpeng, and Tumpeng is the food for celebration in happy occasions such as birthday and thanksgiving.

Although my friendship with Fida is virtual, she sent me some printed postcards and cards on Christmas by mail.

Hopefully, I can meet you someday in person, Fida.

I believe in making friends with positive people, whether it’s online or offline, will make a positive impact in our life.

I agree with the purpose of Facebook.

Facebook was not originally created to be a company. It was built to accomplish a social mission – to make the world more open and connected. 🙂 Mark Zuckerberg

I see the social benefits of friendship in digital age 😀 such as:

  • Collaboration.  We can collaborate with people around the world using virtual platform. Examples:  people co-author the book together such as in  “Living Without Limitations – 30 Mentors to Rock Your World”, it is a collective work from mentors/coaches around the world organized by Anita Sechesky. My Toastmaster friend, Coach Carole McCulloch DTM has an initiative of building Online Alliance of Toastmaters Online clubs on Facebook
  • Modelling.  We can follow certain people and read their information and work.  You can be inspired and model their work.
  • Networking. We can make friends virtually without borders,  and benefit from mutual friendship. We build a network of support through networking.

I used this article to do my speech project for Toastmasters online in Firebirds Collective. Thank you to Geni Johnston, Live Poets and Toastmaster from Taupo, New Zealand who evaluated my speech.


Hello, I'm Viviana, working with small business owners and individuals who want to create a fulfilling business or a career by monetizing your passion, purpose and personal values. Believe in yourself to create the perfect lifestyle in life and business you want to have and expand your capacity.

  • Fida says:

    What a great compliment by posting about our friendship. Thank you. You have put a lot of effort in writing this special post.

    I can’t imagine if one day we will meet each other in person.

    Your virtual friend.

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